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Nonviolent Communication

Marshall Rosenberg

Developer

“Non-violent communication is a Language for Life. We all have difficult situations in our lives, whether it be with a partner, our child/children, a work colleague or a friend or neighbour. The way most people have learned to communicate is not often effective in resolving the conflict and getting our needs met. Non-violent communication could be called 'Compassionate Communication'. It is a tool you can use which will help to have a profound effect on your relationships in all areas of your life. Brought to the UK by Marshall Rosenberg, NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others in a new light. Marshall travels worldwide, applying NVC to such places as prisons in the Middle East and warring tribes in Africa. The application of NVC speaks for itself - it has truly turned difficult/threatening situations completely around. If only everyone on the planet could learn it!” ~ Excerpt from Inspirational Friends

”NVC involves both communication skills that foster compassionate relating and consciousness of the interdependence of our well being and using power with others to work together to meet the needs of all concerned.

This approach to communication emphasizes compassion as the motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat or justification for punishment. In other words, it is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. NVC is NOT about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving.

The process of NVC encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing separate from our interpretations and judgments, to connect our thoughts and feelings to underlying human needs/values (e.g. protection, support, love), and to be clear about what we would like towards meeting those needs. These skills give the ability to translate from a language of criticism, blame, and demand into a language of human needs -- a language of life that consciously connects us to the universal qualities “alive in us” that sustain and enrich our well being, and focuses our attention on what actions we could take to manifest these qualities.” ~ Excerpt from The Center for Nonviolent Communication

"Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we have no real enemies, that what others do to us is the best possible thing they know to do to get their needs met." --Marshall Rosenberg